While listening to an old podcast today and I heard one of the podcasters say, “when you get the urge to criticize, compliment” – Tom Bilyeu.
This goes beyond what you say and goes into what you think. How many of us find ourselves being critical, even if just internally? How often is this a habit we have with others AND with ourselves?
We are in a time when being positive takes some extra effort and it is more important than ever to lift each other up. Encourage each other and remind people of their strengths. We all need this. Yes, we need to feel good about ourselves outside of other people, but there is some compelling evidence that encouragement from others is a big part of us feeling better about who we are.
This thought process is frequently on my mind. I firmly believe that most of us are pretty self critical and just hide it away from people. It makes it all the more important that we encourage each other. That we look at the people around us and acknowledge the flaws, but focus our energy on the fantastic traits they carry.
Even with the awareness of this I find that I get caught in the trap of not focusing on the good and acknowledging it to the people around me. It is way to easy to let life get in the way, to forget that we all need encouragement. However, it is not that hard to take the extra second to compliment someone around me. It isn’t actually harder than not acknowledging the good in those around me, especially those I care about.
Think about the difference it makes in your day when someone tells you something you have done a good job at or something they like about you… did you take a second and think about it? Bet you can think of the times that you have been lifted up by a quick text, call, or comment.
Maybe if we all spread that joy a little more, maybe if we sprinkled a little more pixie dust… maybe the world would be a better place. If not the whole world, then maybe our little slice of it.
I regularly have to remind myself of this and wanted to remind all of you as well. It seems to easy to forget to do this and yet it is one of the easiest things to do. There is no cost, other than maybe a few seconds of time.
Re-wire your brain, edit your words and thoughts. If in our thoughts we focus more on what isn’t going well then it becomes harder to point out the good. Our thoughts have so much control over our lives.
I encourage you to take a minute at least once a day to tell someone around you something you think is awesome about them! Chances are that you will both feel better.
Hang in there friends. Make the world around you a bit brighter.