I believe that the human spirit has the ability to grow, to change, to rise above or move beyond any circumstances we are in. My reason for believing this is simple, my mom and I did it.
My mom didn’t have much belief in herself when we left my biological dad, she just had such deep love for me that she refused to let me leave on my own. I was 14 when we left a terrible, life threatening situation. We had no idea where we would live or how we would do it. Mom had a part-time job cleaning offices and we didn’t have much money. So, we stayed with friends for a week or two, mom got a second job, and we moved into a tiny apartment. Life literally changed in a matter of hours. At that time I didn’t realize how strong my mom actually was and to be honest, she didn’t either. She still doesn’t think she was, she will tell you she wouldn’t have left except that I had decided to leave… What she doesn’t see is how strong she was in leaving with me. That one move brought a lifetime of growth and changes to our lives. Though I didn’t realize it in my teenage years or really until my adult years and my own divorce, watching my mom start to believe in herself, seeing her work two jobs to keep us housed and fed, seeing her become a woman who learned how to think for herself and not be afraid to be completely herself even if she didn’t fit in… That showed me what strength is. How true strength is much more than what people often associate with the word strong. My mom never lost hope, she never gave up, and she continues to be one of the most loving people I know. She’s actually a pretty incredible woman and I’m so thankful to have learned from her.
My mom has taught me how to see good that many don’t see. She’s taught me that life can be difficult, but that we always have a choice about how we handle those difficulties. She has shown me that love is strength. Because of her I’ve learned that we don’t need the approval of others, that we only need to listen to what we know is right deep down. To be true to ourselves and to believe in ourselves and those we love.
When I was young my mom never imagined a way out of that life we were in because she didn’t think there was anything more for her life. Once we actually left she was able to see that there was so much more for her, for us. I’m thankful she kept going even when she didn’t see the way or the exact goal. She just knew we needed to live and in just living we found our path. It wasn’t always easy and still isn’t, but she keeps setting goals, living with hope in her soul, and she keeps loving others and life. In this, she keeps inspiring me without even trying.
I share this story to inspire others and to remind myself of how fortunate I am to have my mom to learn from. It also reminds me that hope, belief, and love can surpass anything we can imagine.
May your life be inspired and inspiring.