I am supported. Words said by the yoga instructor I follow this morning as I practiced yoga. We went to lay back on our mats and she said to say these words to ourselves… “I am supported” as we felt the earth rise to meet us. As I repeated those words to myself I could feel the weight of my body release and soften against my yoga mat and the floor. Supported. I had not really thought about it before. What a difference feeling supported makes. Especially as someone who has handled much of life without support (sometimes by choice, sometimes because there was not any to be found). Lately I have become more open to being supported and have found it is rather nice to experience whether it is the support of the floor during yoga or support of someone who loves me. As I thought about this I thought about how often I feel a little disconnected as one day blends into another and time just seems to blur by. There are little rituals that I can do that help me remember I am supported and connected. Morning walks, daily yoga, setting aside time to read and write and enjoy the world outside with my pets, morning texts with a certain man. These rituals keep me grounded, not in a way that keeps my soul from soaring, but in a way that allows my soul to be open and free while being fully supported and connected. When I get busy and slack on these little things I feel myself becoming disconnected which sometimes keeps me from feeling the support in my life.
In this fast paced society that is so full of ways to stay connected there are studies that indicate we are more disconnected than ever. You can see it everywhere you go in the way that people barely interact with each other. With everything going on it often takes effort to stay connected and grounded and to remember we are supported.
As I was settling into yoga poses this morning I was reminded that we have a choice to make with each day… a choice to practice the things we want to embody in our life or to keep just letting ourselves drift along without becoming who we want to be. Because becoming who we want to be takes effort. It means taking our thoughts and re-framing the ones that tell us we aren’t good enough, it means tackling the projects we don’t feel like we can do on our own, it means confronting our insecurities and fears, and it also means actively choosing to love ourselves and others even on the days that we are not feeling great. Later in the morning I received an email about a book about overcoming fears and this one point stood out to me: we often miss out on opportunities and experiences because we feel we are not ready. The author indicated that ready does not mean you aren’t feeling uncertain, it means that you go for it even though you are uncertain. He also talked about defining what matters to us and to think of what we would do differently if fear were not holding us back. As someone who has been pushing to conquer a fear of falling (metaphorically and literally) this part of his article jumped out and grabbed me. There are times I don’t feel I am ready for something, but I am tired of letting that keep me from going for it. Reality is we often aren’t ready for things, but we won’t ever know until we go for it. How does this all tie to being supported? Well, when you know you are supported it is easier to choose to live the life you want and to not let fear hold you back. Even if it is just knowing that the earth below you is supporting you as you take your next step or that your soul is supporting you when you step out of your comfort zone and choose to open yourself to something new.
The qualities I want to embody in my life mean that I have to let myself feel supported (whether by the earth while in a yoga pose, by myself when I feel like I am not quite ready to tackle a project or conquer a fear, or by people who love me when I am not feeling quite so strong and they want to support me) and relax into it rather than struggle to maintain this facade of not needing support. It also means making a choice to redirect my thoughts into ones that remind me that I make the choice of who I want to be and what I let control my life. The world will always toss things into our path to make us stumble or lose sight of the important things, it is up to us to dodge those little missiles and move forward on our path… the path we choose. It may be overgrown and messy, but we can decide to traverse it and make it beautiful as we go. Personally, I prefer that path to be tangled and less traveled because some of the most beautiful vistas are found as we make our own path through the brambles, shrubs, and muddy patches of earth.
I encourage you to take a few minutes in this hectic world to remind yourself that you are supported and connected. Maybe if everyone started practicing that each day we would see our world become a little more connected.