Not that long ago I started reading some new books. These aren’t books I would have just picked up on my own as they would have never entered my mind. However, they are important to someone I love dearly and I wanted to understand more about this facet of his life. It didn’t take long before I loved the characters and the writing style of the author. Reading the books got me hooked and next thing you know I have taken up playing a related game on Xbox. This game has quests and as I learn to maneuver through these quests it is helping me also learn to slow down and enjoy the game. The first bit of time in it I was getting frustrated as I tried to learn everything all at once and was annoyed with myself for not automatically understanding it (apparently somewhere in my head I thought I would just learn by osmosis?). A few days in and I already feel more comfortable with the controller and I can play without getting mad at myself.
There are ways this ties into every day life as well. It is easy to get frustrated with ourselves or others as we learn something new. So many of us put expectations on ourselves that are practically impossible to attain.
Currently I am learning some other new things in life. Especially in terms of letting someone inside the walls I built around myself. In the process of getting close I have found moments of challenge because I am not used to having someone this close and definitely am not used to having someone actively and consistently show that they will be right here on the good days and the not so good days of my life. It is a whole new realm to go on a quest in for me. To be honest, I don’t always handle the learning gracefully. When I trip up and stumble on the journey my tendency is to put on that heavy cloak of impossible expectations and get bogged down in disappointment with myself. In these moments there is one thing that I am finding I can count on… and that is that this man who has gotten into my soul and inside these walls is quick to remind me to enjoy the journey, to slow down and appreciate it all, and to let myself stumble without beating myself up over it.
Here’s the thing. We all stumble, we all trip ourselves up. Not that we want to, it just happens because we are human and we cannot be perfect. The reality is that I don’t want to be perfect, but my brain sometimes tricks me into thinking I have to be. I am learning in my quest on the game I am playing that it is much easier to learn how to play and to make it through the quest when you have someone by your side who is ready to fight the bad guys with you and help you learn the ins and outs of the game. This is also true of real life. When you have someone who is ready to fight the battles with you and help as you learn new ways of doing things then it becomes so much easier to do.
Venturing into new realms has become a precious quest I never imagined in more ways than one.
Enjoy the quest and don’t hesitate to let someone share it with you.