Browse social media and you are sure to see articles and posts about how to be a better person, how to love yourself more, how to deal with narcissists, how to not get walked on…. all around us are messages of how to behave, who we should be. I get it, most of us want to improve ourselves and that is a good thing. I strongly encourage that we strive to be the best possible version of ourselves, while also being understanding that it is a never-ending project.
In this piece that I skipped through tonight the comments on the post struck me. All these people talking about how they were nice to people and got walked on. That will happen, it is inevitable. Boundaries are important, we all need to set them in our lives with people, with work, with ourselves. That helps you not get taken advantage of. At the same time though, if we are being kind for the right reasons we won’t be worried about what we get out of it. Kindness should just be part of who we are and something we extend to others because it is what our souls tell us to do. We all know how much we appreciate when kindness is extended to us, why not pay it forward and create a life that is marked by that without thought as to what we get in return. That does not mean to be a doormat. In actuality, setting boundaries with compassion and sincerity is a form of kindness and care we can provide to others and ourselves.
As I look around at a world that is often crazy I know that I want to create an environment filled with care, kindness, and love for the people I am close to. A safe place for them to come when the world is harsh and life is heavy.
We cannot change the whole world, but we can bring light and love to our circle and that is good enough for me.