There are levels of trust. There’s the trust when you know someone won’t lie to you and that’s a wonderful type of trust.
There’s a deeper trust. It’s a trust when you let someone see the depths of your soul and the tenderness of your heart. When you’re vulnerable and share your hopes, dreams, and fears. You let them know you. It’s perfectly simple and terribly complicated.
That deeper trust takes time to build, no matter how much you care about someone. It’s why friendships of many years are so deep and beautiful, because you’ve built this solid foundation of trust thru shared experiences and conversations and being there for each other during the highs and lows.
In certain situations of life it can be difficult to slow down and remember that the important things in life, like this deeper level of trust, are not going to happen quickly. The foundations must be strong and built properly. Patience is not easy, it can be quite the struggle.
Over the years I’ve learned that patience is necessary and beneficial. I’ve learned that the best relationships of any kind require patience and time to build so that the structure will last thru the storms of life.
Even at 42 it’s still hard to keep focused on that. Why? Because patience isn’t always enjoyable. Because doing this often means doing things you don’t want to.
The best thing I have found to do is focus on the end goal and the reasons to be patient. Not that it makes this more enjoyable, but it does make it a little easier.
It’s good to remember that we all struggle with patience in some way. We’re all in this crazy world together and share similar struggles with growing.