I remember when I was younger I took for granted that my Grandma was close by and always available to visit with or call. In 2006 (when I was 31) my Grandma passed away. To understand how hard this was, my Grandma was one of my best friends. We took trips, we spent hours together. During those moments it never occurred to me that she wouldn’t be here for my whole life. Somewhere in my head I knew it, but it just didn’t seem like a reality. Then she was gone. There were so many conversations I wish we had and many more trips I wish we had taken.
It’s not just people that we end up doing this with. For the better part of the past 6 years I have lived with other people (some I loved living with and others, not so much). Prior to that I lived alone in my little apartment for about 3 years. Just recently I realized how very much I missed living alone. The simplicity of my life when there isn’t another person in my house.
Even more recently I have found I miss certain random conversations with people in my life. What’s crazy is when you don’t expect to miss it and then suddenly something happens and you can’t have the conversation. Wow, that’s when you realize how easy it is to miss someone. Life gets busy and those long phone chats can’t always happen, those random texts often become fewer, and those moments sitting up at 1:00 a.m. drinking wine and chatting don’t happen. Yes, it’s part of life… yes, you do have to make time for these things. Reality is that sometimes you also have to change the time you spend with someone.
Life moves fast, tell people you love them. Find that time to have coffee together. Enjoy your solitude. Breathe in the moments that make life amazing.