A few years back my friend Jacquie happened to see me as I was going through a painful breakup with a guy who I really liked. My attitude about life was less than great at that moment and as we chatted she suggested that every day I practice waking up and thinking of 3 things I was grateful for. Well, I got tired of my crummy attitude and started making the effort to wake up and think of what I was grateful for. It turns out that there were so many more good things than bad things happening in my life.
Sometimes I slack on this and I get caught in the miserable rut of only noticing the annoyances of life. That happened to me over the past several months, this dark and ugly cloud of negative settled in around my soul. The worst part is that I knew it was there and I just let it sit there and grow. Recently while driving home from work I thought about Jacquie’s advice. The drive home is usually 45 minutes, so I had plenty of time to think. As the rain drops started to fall I started to think of the good things in life.
- I have a job!
- My bills are paid.
- I have awesome friends.
- My pets, because those little buggers make my whole life bright!
- My little house that I loved from the moment I walked in the door.
- Rain, I love rain, especially in these stupid hot summers.
- Foo Fighters. Dave Grohl.
- Sunrises and sunsets.
Suddenly my little list was growing and I felt this dark cloud start to break apart. It wasn’t all gone by the end of my commute, but it was certainly smaller.
Lately my focus is on looking for the good, the happy little things. I still acknowledge the crap, it does no good to ignore it. Now though I talk to it, let it speak it’s mind, and send it off on the journey it needs to take.
Often circumstances in life suck. Often we create the crap in our life just because we only look at the bad things.
I encourage you all to find 3 positive things and put some focus there. Watch that list grow.