Lately I have thought quite a bit about certain friendships and what a miraculous thing they are.
One of my dear friends has been part of my life for close to 20 years. We have been drunk together, we have done crazy weekend trips together, and we have grown from young adults and immaturity to somewhat more mature and a little wiser together. We no longer go drinking and clubbing. Now in those rare, sweet moments we get to see each other we sit and talk or walk and talk. We live a drive of several hours from each other, yet there are many days it feels like she is right next to me. We have journeyed through the insanity of life together for so long and helped each other cope with heartache. We have celebrated the joys. This is beautiful to me. The depth of our relationship is beyond words and I am honored we have grown together instead of apart over the years.
Another friend lives closer, but life does get in the way. Family, chores, and work. Some days it feels like living Groundhog Day the movie. Even still, the moments that we get to see each other are as precious as any gemstone. Our friendship grew out of a tiny little meeting at a networking event and has become this wonderful piece of living art.
Some friendships last for many years and some last for brief moments when viewed in the span of a lifetime. All friendships teach us something, even the ones that are a blip in time. That’s the real beauty of friendship, that it always teaches us something. Some of the lessons are warm and fuzzy and sparkling. Some lessons are as sad as the moment that Dobby dies (I cry every time I see it – in print or film).
Friendships that span our timeline are a bit like a beautiful sunrise or sunset to me. No matter how many times I watch the sun enter or leave the sky I am still in awe. The same applies for these friendships. In a society that moves so fast and changes every few seconds – these friendships that evolve and stand the test of time are something to be treasured.
Yes, letting people close can hurt us and that causes trepidation for some people, BUT… BUT… BUT… not letting people close hurts just as much in other ways.
So I will take the hurts that have come with letting others close because I also know the beauty that can come from letting people in to our little sacred circle.